Sacred Man: Sacred Woman

12th - 16th August 2022

Full Price: £250    -    Couples:    £450     -     Community contributors: £125

(Includes food and accomodation)

Sacred Man : Sacred Woman, is:

The Sacred Man Sacred Woman Ritual is an annual summer event at Spirit Horse created by Shivam 25 years ago.

An honouring, and a ceremonial "war of beauty" between men and women.

Come to explore yourself, the mystery of the other, to love and grow, to find home and to have some fantastic out of this world time.

With much hilarity and yet with authentic depth, a traditional “war” between men and women is declared. Taking to their separate camps, they separate and only after a long day and night in their own sacred lodges do they emerge to meet again - to ritually engage.

What can be learnt is beyond intellect. This is the old way. 

It is a delightful, delicate, precisely held space in which to explore your natural self and come really, really alive.

Let us fall in love again and scatter gold dust all over the world.

Let us become a new spring and feel the breeze drift in heaven’s scent.
Let us dress the Earth in green and like the sap of a young tree,
Let the grace within us, sustain us.


A way to:

A way to heal the wounded houses of our longing,
A way to learn at the deep end what the power and play of ritual can be,

A way beyond personal issues into a world of magical re-connection, renewing life.
A way back to the old wisdom of women’s and men’s sacred lodges,
A way to strut and sway with pride without apology beyond fear or shame,
And a way to keep the sun and moon wheeling in the ecstatic sky!

We invite you

Come and learn this ancient art of living at our annual summer ceremony. No experience is needed. Come alone or with your partner and renew life, yourself and your relationships. You’ll be someone else at the end! 

You may feel ok as a man or as a woman and you and your relationships may be doing fine, but in this culture some part of you is likely to be aching with loneliness, knowing you have never been seen, part of you never addressed in the way your ancient heart has waited for.

Has she ever been really seen? Has she heard the praise that her soul aches for?
Has he honoured his adventure? Or has he betrayed himself`? Was his endeavour ever exalted?

Come away to this ancient fire,
Where the deepest soul of woman can be courted and praised, as is so long overdue,
Where he can find his healing, which he so badly needs, where his adventure can be blessed,
Where the Holy One can move freely in the gestures, songs and dances of men and women bound in fellowship.
Free yourself in this beautiful playful dance of polarity - which is delicious, deeply rooted and forever new.

It can’t really be described; it has to be experienced; you'll know if you take up the invitation.

Workshop Leaders

Ritual steered by: Shivam and women of the Spirit Horse tribe steeped in ritual over many long summers.


Please note, the men and women will be separated into separate lodges on the Saturday. The men and women will be re-united again on the Monday night. You are welcome to bring a tent to sleep in on the Friday and Monday nights but will be expected to stay with the rest of the men/women in their respective lodges for Saturday and Sunday nights.  

Participants's Quotes


"I met me and then I met my beloved"
"It changed how I see men; and men and women together forever"
"I gave up long ago on men but after Sacred Man Sacred Woman a whole new adventure started, I live with a beautiful husband now, so many deep wounds became a thing of the past forever"



“I’ve done a lot, and a lot of workshops, a real lot; but this is the tops”
“I’ve discovered ritual – I love this!”
“It wasn’t really just about men and women, it was about life, loving the earth, offering something back, being grateful and going beyond what I wanted and what I thought I needed for myself”


And they lived happily ever after, which is the only proper way to live.

Our soul is our dream of the other.


At Sacred Man:Sacred Woman you will learn about our Men's Lodge gatherings and Women's Lodge gatherings and the deep work we can do together.

A Dervishes’ Song for Sacred Man and Woman:

We live together day by day, 

this dangerous embrace,

this ocean of our longing

These loving kisses with wives and husbands we have never really met.


In the night of delight, full dark and softened in a thousand layers of ritual wrapped,

Warm tears flow over the carpet woven with tireless threads of praise words,

All stillness, deep hush, our story’s bitterness turns to an elixir,

A song like a river flows


A woman’s face glows bright - but not due to the hundred candles.

When beauty awakens, amidst intense praise, from her sleep,

The universe gets drunk again

And begins to dance.

At dawn the birds carry on the song.

Tonight there will be a feast, the faces of men and women will shine, we rest, because the food has already been blessed.


“Paint me a picture of the river - and let it flow,
It will flow and wash away all difference and love will grow.
You have the power to deliver – so let it go”


Bookings and Cancellations Policy


It is really helpful for us when running courses and events if you book in advance.

If we have to cancel an event, we will provide you a full refund without question.
If you need to cancel your booking, you can carry the value of your booking over to another event (subject to availability) or pay £100 admin fee, unless exceptional circumstances.