In 2015 Erika passed on the holding of the Woman's lodge in Sacred Man:Scared Woman to Paloma.
Erika says "Blessings on all what has been and all what is coming. Paloma carries her heart through this world like a life-giving sun. Shivam and Paloma together will take this ceremonial time to new hrights, making history over and over again. Be there and witness, book your place now in the name of love "
Shivam says: I, Shivam Welcome you, Paloma, my old friend, companion on this path from the first steps of Spirit Horse and from the first manifestation of this dream called Sacred Man, Sacred Woman as the Leader of the Woman’s Lodge, to work with me and make it even bigger and richer than it ever was. All of us who were part of this work over the 26 years of our history know, that your own brand of enthusiasm, enduring strength, total support, given with abundant generosity to Erika and the lodge made an enormous difference to all what manifested. Welcome Paloma with open arms, be by my side, be all that you are, all that you can be. Step forward, more visible than ever, share the whispers of your heart. Your Friend: Shivam"
Sacred Man : Sacred Woman, is:
A way to heal the wounded houses of our longing, A way to learn at the deep end what the power and play of ceremony or ritual can be, A way back to the old wisdom of women’s and men’s sacred lodges, A way to strut and sway with pride without apology beyond fear or shame, And a way to keep the sun and moon wheeling in the ecstatic sky!
We invite you to come and learn this ancient art of living at our annual summer ceremony. No experience is needed. Come alone or with your partner and renew life, yourself and your relationships. You’ll be someone else at the end! (There is no uninvited intimacy)
You may feel ok as a man or as a woman and you and your relationships may be doing fine, but in this culture some part of you is likely to be aching with loneliness, knowing you have never been seen, part of you never addressed in the way your ancient heart has waited for.
Has she ever been really seen? Has she heard the praise that her soul aches for? Has he danced his vision? Has he ever been blessed and sent on his adventure?
Come away to this ancient fire, Where the deepest soul of woman can be courted and praised, as is so long overdue, Where he can find his healing, which he so badly needs, where his adventure can be blessed, Where the Holy One can move freely in the gestures, songs and dances of men and women bound in fellowship. Free yourself in this beautiful dance of polarity - which is delicious, deeply rooted and forever new.
It can’t really be described but it is very easily experienced if you take up the invitation.
We return again this year to our old camping place.
Sacred Man : Sacred Woman will be our celebration and chief ritual.
Join us and be part of this mirth.
Please note, the men and women will be separated into separate lodges on the Friday. The men and women will be re-united again on the Sunday night. You are welcome to bring a tent to sleep in on the Thursday and Sunday nights but will be expected to stay with the rest of the men/women in their respective lodges during Sacred Man:Sacred Woman.
A Dervishes’ Song for Sacred Man and Woman:
We live together day by day, Our hearts beyond reach sail by We try this dangerous embrace and lie, in an ocean of our longing These loving kisses with wives and husbands we have never really met.
In the night of delight, all softened in a thousand layers of ritual wrapped, Warm tears flow over the carpet woven with tireless threads of thank yous, All darkness in hush, my story’s bitterness turns to an elixir, A song like a river flows A woman’s face glows bright - but not due to the hundred candles. When beauty awaken, amidst intense praise, from her sleep, The universe gets drunk again And begins to dance. At dawn the birds carry on the song. Tonight there will be a feast, we rest, because the food has already been blessed.
Quotes from participants:
“I met me and then I met my beloved” “It changed how I see men; and men and women together forever” “I gave up long ago on men but after Sacred Man Sacred Woman a whole new adventure started, I live with a beautiful husband now, so many deep wounds became a thing of the past forever”
“I’ve done a lot, and a lot of workshops, a real lot; but this is the tops” “I’ve discovered ritual – I love this!” “It wasn’t really just about men and women, it was about life, loving the earth, offering something back, being grateful and going beyond what I wanted and what I thought I needed for myself”
And they lived happily ever after, which is the only proper way to live.
Our soul is our dream of the other.
GOING FURTHER IN THE GREAT WORK
Our culture pays little tribute to the sacred dimension in the lives of men and women. We have lost the stories, ceremonies and companionship that older cultures considered essential. Peeling back the surface layer, deep within us are places that have retreated in the face of a grey world; holy places that speak and sing and dance when they are spoken to. They can be appropriately addressed in Lodges such as these:
The Men’s Lodge - run by experienced members of Spirit Horse. Sacred Man:Sacred Woman is a pre-requisite for joining the Men's Lodge.
The Women’s Lodge - With Erika, Paloma Suarez and other experienced women of Spirit Horse.
“Paint me a picture of the river - and let it flow, It will flow and wash away all difference and love will grow. You have the power to deliver – so let it go”
Sacred Man : Sacred Woman is the name of a longstanding annual workshop - which is really a big ritual - which is really to say - it is a way beyond personal issues into a world of magical re-connection, renewing life.
"Out beyond ideas of rightdoing and wrongdoing, there is a green field. I'll meet you there. When you lie down in that grass, Life is too full to talk about"